BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People
High-Conflict People and Blamespeak
Writing a BIFF Response
Avoid Admonishments, Advice and Apologies
BIFFs for Friends and Family (and Ex’s)
In the Workplace
Business and Professions
Organizations and Governments
Coaching for BIFF Responses
About the Author
A BIFF response helps us communicate in this age of rapid change and instant communication, and in a society with a growing Culture of Blame and Disrespect. Managing your responses to high-conflict emails, texts, letters, and social media meltdowns is imperative, according to author Bill Eddy.
A BIFF response can be applied in any communication anywhere – on the Internet, in a letter or in person. It can be used at work, earning you respect and success. It can help you get along with difficult family members, friends, neighbors and others anywhere in your life. BIFF was designed to protect you and your reputation by responding quickly and civilly to people who treat you rudely – while being reasonable in return.
Brief | Informative | Friendly | Firm
A BIFF response is easy to remember, but hard to do. It takes practice! This little book gives over 20 examples of BIFF responses for all areas of life – plus additional tips to help you deal with high-conflict people anywhere. See if you can do a BIFF! Not everyone can!
An all-new chapter on coaching others to use BIFF responses is included!
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Bill Eddy is a lawyer, therapist, mediator and the President of High Conflict Institute. He developed the “High Conflict Personality” theory (HCP Theory) and has become an international expert on managing disputes involving high conflict personalities and personality disorders. He provides training on this subject to lawyers, judges, mediators, managers, human resource professionals, businesspersons, healthcare administrators, college administrators, homeowners’ association managers, ombudspersons, law enforcement, therapists and others. He has been a speaker and trainer in over 25 states, several provinces in Canada, Australia, France and Sweden.
As an attorney, Bill is a Certified Family Law Specialist in California and the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego. Prior to becoming an attorney in 1992, he was a Licensed Clinical Social worker with twelve years’ experience providing therapy to children, adults, couples and families in psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics. He has taught Negotiation and Mediation at the University of San Diego School of Law for six years and he is on the part-time faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law and the National Judicial College. He is the author of numerous articles and several books, including:
BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns
High Conflict People in Legal Disputes
It’s All YOUR Fault! 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for Everything
SPLITTING: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
It’s All Your Fault at Work
Future of Family Court
Don’t Alienate the Kids
He is also the developer of the New Ways for Families method of managing potentially high conflict families in and out of family court and the New Ways for Work method for managing potentially high conflict employees.