Don’t Alienate the Kids!
TABLE OF CONTENTS
PART I: Building a Wall (What to Avoid)
Chapter 1: High-Conflict Divorce
Chapter 2: Child Alienation
Chapter 3: 1000 Little Bricks
Chapter 4: Emotions are Contagious
Chapter 5: All-or-Nothing Thinking
Chapter 6: Mirroring Bad Behavior
PART II: Building a Foundation (What to Do)
Chapter 7: Teaching Resilience
Chapter 8: Reasonable Parent’s Dilemma
Chapter 9: How Family and Friends Can Help
Chapter 10: How Lawyers Can Help
Chapter 11: How Counselors Can Help
Chapter 12: The Future of Family Courts
Appendix A: Before You Go To Family Court
Appendix B: Yes, No or I’ll Think About It
Appendix C: Is Your Child Alienated?
Appendix D: Don’t Use “Force”
Appendix E: Evaluating Sexual Abuse Reports in Family Court
Appendix F: New Ways Parent-Child Talk
About the Author
Don’t Alienate the Kids! is a fresh examination of the child alienation problem from the perspective of a lawyer, therapist, mediator, who also trains judges on managing high-conflict disputes.
Author Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq., doesn’t just analyze the Parental Alienation Syndrome vs. Child Abuse Presumption debate; he also proposes his own theory based on recent breakthroughs in brain research about how children learn.
In his theory, there are no bad parents, just bad behaviors – the behaviors of both parents, family members, friends and divorce professionals. Most of these bad behaviors go unrecognized in daily life, but they help build a Wall of Alienation between a parent and child.
By becoming aware and using his tips, we can all help children build a Foundation of Resilience which will last them a lifetime. This is a book for any parent even considering a divorce, and for any professional who wants to truly help parents raise resilient children.
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Publication date: 2010
Author: Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.
Bill Eddy is a lawyer, therapist, mediator and the President of High Conflict Institute. He developed the “High Conflict Personality” theory (HCP Theory) and has become an international expert on managing disputes involving high conflict personalities and personality disorders. He provides training on this subject to lawyers, judges, mediators, managers, human resource professionals, businesspersons, healthcare administrators, college administrators, homeowners’ association managers, ombudspersons, law enforcement, therapists and others. He has been a speaker and trainer in over 25 states, several provinces in Canada, Australia, France and Sweden.
As an attorney, Bill is a Certified Family Law Specialist in California and the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego. Prior to becoming an attorney in 1992, he was a Licensed Clinical Social worker with twelve years’ experience providing therapy to children, adults, couples and families in psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics. He has taught Negotiation and Mediation at the University of San Diego School of Law for six years and he is on the part-time faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law and the National Judicial College. He is the author of numerous articles and several books, including:
High Conflict People in Legal Disputes
It’s All YOUR Fault! 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for Everything
SPLITTING: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns
He is also the developer of the “New Ways for Families” method of managing potentially high conflict families in and out of family court. He is currently developing a method for managing potentially high conflict employees titled “New Ways for Work.”